Ways to keep a disagreement from being an Argument
1) Welcome the disagreement - Sometimes there may be a point that you may not have thought about, so be thankful if someone brings it to your attention. You never know, that disagreement could have prevented you from making a serious mistake.
2) Distrust your first instinctive impression - In most cases our first reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Watch out because and keep calm because it may be you at your worst and not your best.
3) Control your temper - Always remember you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.
4) Listen first - Give your opponents a chance to vent and let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate because this will only raise barriers. Try to build a relationship with understanding and not misunderstanding.
5) Look for areas of agreement - When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.
6) Be honest - Admit any errors you made and apologize for your mistakes. This will disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.
7) Promise to think over your opponents' ideas and study them carefully - I know you hate to hear "We tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen." or "I told you so." With that in mind, please think about their points before you move rapidly ahead and find yourself in that position.
8) Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest - Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.
9) Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem - Reshecdule a meeting with that person later on that day or the next day, when all facts may be brought to bear. When preparing for this meeting ask yourself some hard questions like:
Could my opponents be right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Will my reaction drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me? Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win?
Of course there is many more questions you can ask yourself, but at least these will get you started.
This word of wisdom has been brought to you courtesy of Dale Carnegie, Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. To find more content and books from Dale Carnegie just copy and paste his name into the Amazon search box below. Thank you.
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2) Distrust your first instinctive impression - In most cases our first reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Watch out because and keep calm because it may be you at your worst and not your best.
3) Control your temper - Always remember you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.
4) Listen first - Give your opponents a chance to vent and let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate because this will only raise barriers. Try to build a relationship with understanding and not misunderstanding.
5) Look for areas of agreement - When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.
6) Be honest - Admit any errors you made and apologize for your mistakes. This will disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.
7) Promise to think over your opponents' ideas and study them carefully - I know you hate to hear "We tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen." or "I told you so." With that in mind, please think about their points before you move rapidly ahead and find yourself in that position.
8) Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest - Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.
9) Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem - Reshecdule a meeting with that person later on that day or the next day, when all facts may be brought to bear. When preparing for this meeting ask yourself some hard questions like:
Could my opponents be right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Will my reaction drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me? Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win?
Of course there is many more questions you can ask yourself, but at least these will get you started.
This word of wisdom has been brought to you courtesy of Dale Carnegie, Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. To find more content and books from Dale Carnegie just copy and paste his name into the Amazon search box below. Thank you.
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Mike you are a funny guy. That is a great point you made. You should definitely not dicuss your disagreements after a night of drinking. lol.
What's up Seth? I thank you for your kind words. The information comes from articles and books I read and they come from people I talk too.
Well I kind of like doing HTML codes for websites and since I do not have a website I used this blog as a subsitute. Then I evenyually fell in love with it and tried to do a lot of things that will attract people to it. I don't know if you notice, but I added motivations quotes that are updated everyday. That was just something extra to create more interest. If you want I would be glad to help you out on your blog. Just let me know.
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